SN 37.25 · Assured
SN 37.25 · Visāradasutta
“Mendicants, there are these five powers of a lady. What five? Attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior. These are the five powers of a lady. A lady living at home with these five qualities is self-assured.”
“Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, mātugāmassa balāni. Katamāni pañca? Rūpabalaṁ, bhogabalaṁ, ñātibalaṁ, puttabalaṁ, sīlabalaṁ— imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca mātugāmassa balāni. Imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi balehi samannāgato mātugāmo visārado agāraṁ ajjhāvasatī”ti.
Paṭhamaṁ.
SN 37.26 · Under Her Thumb
SN 37.26 · Pasayhasutta
“Mendicants, there are these five powers of a lady. What five? Attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior. These are the five powers of a lady. A lady living at home with these five powers has her husband under her thumb.”
“Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, mātugāmassa balāni. Katamāni pañca? Rūpabalaṁ, bhogabalaṁ, ñātibalaṁ, puttabalaṁ, sīlabalaṁ— imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca mātugāmassa balāni. Imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi balehi samannāgato mātugāmo sāmikaṁ pasayha agāraṁ ajjhāvasatī”ti.
Dutiyaṁ.
SN 37.27 · Mastered
SN 37.27 · Abhibhuyyasutta
“Mendicants, there are these five powers of a lady. What five? Attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior. These are the five powers of a lady. A lady with these five powers lives having mastered her husband.”
“Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, mātugāmassa balāni. Katamāni pañca? Rūpabalaṁ, bhogabalaṁ, ñātibalaṁ, puttabalaṁ, sīlabalaṁ— imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca mātugāmassa balāni. Imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi balehi samannāgato mātugāmo sāmikaṁ abhibhuyya vattatī”ti.
Tatiyaṁ.
SN 37.28 · One
SN 37.28 · Ekasutta
“Mendicants, by means of one power a man lives having mastered a lady. By means of what one power? When a lady has been mastered by the power of authority, her powers of attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior do not avail her.”
“Ekena ca kho, bhikkhave, balena samannāgato puriso mātugāmaṁ abhibhuyya vattati. Katamena ekena balena? Issariyabalena abhibhūtaṁ mātugāmaṁ neva rūpabalaṁ tāyati, na bhogabalaṁ tāyati, na ñātibalaṁ tāyati, na puttabalaṁ tāyati, na sīlabalaṁ tāyatī”ti.
Catutthaṁ.
SN 37.29 · In That Respect
SN 37.29 · Aṅgasutta
“Mendicants, there are these five powers of a lady. What five?
“Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, mātugāmassa balāni. Katamāni pañca?
Attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior.
Rūpabalaṁ, bhogabalaṁ, ñātibalaṁ, puttabalaṁ, sīlabalaṁ.
A lady who has the power of attractiveness but not the power of wealth is incomplete in that respect. But when she has the power of attractiveness and the power of wealth she’s complete in that respect.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, na ca bhogabalena— evaṁ so tenaṅgena aparipūro hoti. Yato ca kho, bhikkhave, mātugāmo rūpabalena ca samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca— evaṁ so tenaṅgena paripūro hoti.
A lady who has the powers of attractiveness and wealth, but not the power of relatives is incomplete in that respect. But when she has the powers of attractiveness, wealth, and relatives she’s complete in that respect.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, na ca ñātibalena— evaṁ so tenaṅgena aparipūro hoti. Yato ca kho, bhikkhave, mātugāmo rūpabalena ca samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, ñātibalena ca— evaṁ so tenaṅgena paripūro hoti.
A lady who has the powers of attractiveness, wealth, and relatives, but not the power of children is incomplete in that respect. But when she has the powers of attractiveness, wealth, relatives, and children she’s complete in that respect.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, ñātibalena ca, na ca puttabalena— evaṁ so tenaṅgena aparipūro hoti. Yato ca kho, bhikkhave, mātugāmo rūpabalena ca samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, ñātibalena ca, puttabalena ca— evaṁ so tenaṅgena paripūro hoti.
A lady who has the powers of attractiveness, wealth, relatives, and children, but not the power of ethical behavior is incomplete in that respect. But when she has the powers of attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior she’s complete in that respect.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, ñātibalena ca, puttabalena ca, na ca sīlabalena— evaṁ so tenaṅgena aparipūro hoti. Yato ca kho, bhikkhave, mātugāmo rūpabalena ca samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, ñātibalena ca, puttabalena ca, sīlabalena ca— evaṁ so tenaṅgena paripūro hoti.
These are the five powers of a lady.”
Imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca mātugāmassa balānī”ti.
Pañcamaṁ.
SN 37.30 · They Send Her Away
SN 37.30 · Nāsentisutta
“Mendicants, there are these five powers of a lady. What five?
“Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, mātugāmassa balāni. Katamāni pañca?
Attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior.
Rūpabalaṁ, bhogabalaṁ, ñātibalaṁ, puttabalaṁ, sīlabalaṁ.
If a lady has the power of attractiveness but not that of ethical behavior, the family will send her away, they won’t accommodate her.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, na ca sīlabalena, nāsenteva naṁ, kule na vāsenti.
If a lady has the powers of attractiveness and wealth but not that of ethical behavior, the family will send her away, they won’t accommodate her.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, na ca sīlabalena, nāsenteva naṁ, kule na vāsenti.
If a lady has the powers of attractiveness, wealth, and relatives, but not that of ethical behavior, the family will send her away, they won’t accommodate her.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, ñātibalena ca, na ca sīlabalena, nāsenteva naṁ, kule na vāsenti.
If a lady has the powers of attractiveness, wealth, relatives, and children, but not that of ethical behavior, the family will send her away, they won’t accommodate her.
Rūpabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, bhogabalena ca, ñātibalena ca, puttabalena ca, na ca sīlabalena, nāsenteva naṁ, kule na vāsenti.
If a lady has the power of ethical behavior but not that of attractiveness, the family will accommodate her, they won’t send her away.
Sīlabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, na ca rūpabalena, vāsenteva naṁ, kule na nāsenti.
If a lady has the power of ethical behavior but not that of wealth, the family will accommodate her, they won’t send her away.
Sīlabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, na ca bhogabalena, vāsenteva naṁ, kule na nāsenti.
If a lady has the power of ethical behavior but not that of relatives, the family will accommodate her, they won’t send her away.
Sīlabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, na ca ñātibalena, vāsenteva naṁ, kule na nāsenti.
If a lady has the power of ethical behavior but not that of children, the family will accommodate her, they won’t send her away.
Sīlabalena ca, bhikkhave, mātugāmo samannāgato hoti, na ca puttabalena, vāsenteva naṁ, kule na nāsenti.
These are the five powers of a lady.”
Imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca mātugāmassa balānī”ti.
Chaṭṭhaṁ.
SN 37.31 · Cause
SN 37.31 · Hetusutta
“Mendicants, there are these five powers of a lady. What five? Attractiveness, wealth, relatives, children, and ethical behavior.
“Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, mātugāmassa balāni. Katamāni pañca? Rūpabalaṁ, bhogabalaṁ, ñātibalaṁ, puttabalaṁ, sīlabalaṁ.
It is not because of the powers of attractiveness, wealth, relatives, or children that ladies, when their body breaks up, after death, are reborn in a good place, a heavenly realm. It is because of the power of ethical behavior that ladies, when their body breaks up, after death, are reborn in a good place, a heavenly realm.
Na, bhikkhave, mātugāmo rūpabalahetu vā bhogabalahetu vā ñātibalahetu vā puttabalahetu vā kāyassa bhedā paraṁ maraṇā sugatiṁ saggaṁ lokaṁ upapajjati. Sīlabalahetu kho, bhikkhave, mātugāmo kāyassa bhedā paraṁ maraṇā sugatiṁ saggaṁ lokaṁ upapajjati.
These are the five powers of a lady.”
Imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca mātugāmassa balānī”ti.
Sattamaṁ.
SN 37.32 · Things
SN 37.32 · Ṭhānasutta
“Mendicants, there are five things that are hard to get for ladies who have not made merit. What five?
“Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, ṭhānāni dullabhāni akatapuññena mātugāmena. Katamāni pañca?
‘May I be born into a suitable family!’ This is the first thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyeyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, paṭhamaṁ ṭhānaṁ dullabhaṁ akatapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born in a suitable family, may I marry into a suitable family!’ This is the second thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gaccheyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, dutiyaṁ ṭhānaṁ dullabhaṁ akatapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born in a suitable family and married into a suitable family, may I live at home without a co-wife!’ This is the third thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā, patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gantvā, asapatti agāraṁ ajjhāvaseyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, tatiyaṁ ṭhānaṁ dullabhaṁ akatapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born in a suitable family, and married into a suitable family, and living at home without a co-wife, may I have children!’ This is the fourth thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā, patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gantvā, asapatti agāraṁ ajjhāvasantī puttavatī assanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, catutthaṁ ṭhānaṁ dullabhaṁ akatapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born in a suitable family, and married into a suitable family, and living at home without a co-wife, and having had children, may I live having mastered my husband!’ This is the fifth thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā, patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gantvā, asapatti agāraṁ ajjhāvasantī puttavatī samānā sāmikaṁ abhibhuyya vatteyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, pañcamaṁ ṭhānaṁ dullabhaṁ akatapuññena mātugāmena.
These are the five things that are hard to get for ladies who have not made merit.
Imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca ṭhānāni dullabhāni akatapuññena mātugāmenāti.
There are five things that are easy to get for ladies who have made merit. What five?
Pañcimāni, bhikkhave, ṭhānāni sulabhāni katapuññena mātugāmena. Katamāni pañca?
‘May I be born into a suitable family!’ This is the first thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyeyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, paṭhamaṁ ṭhānaṁ sulabhaṁ katapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born into a suitable family, may I marry into a suitable family!’ This is the second thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gaccheyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, dutiyaṁ ṭhānaṁ sulabhaṁ katapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born into a suitable family and married into a suitable family, may I live at home without a co-wife!’ This is the third thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gantvā asapatti agāraṁ ajjhāvaseyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, tatiyaṁ ṭhānaṁ sulabhaṁ katapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born into a suitable family, and married into a suitable family, and living at home without a co-wife, may I have children!’ This is the fourth thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gantvā asapatti agāraṁ ajjhāvasantī puttavatī assanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, catutthaṁ ṭhānaṁ sulabhaṁ katapuññena mātugāmena.
‘Having been born into a suitable family, and married into a suitable family, and living at home without a co-wife, and having had children, may I live having mastered my husband!’ This is the fifth thing.
Patirūpe kule jāyitvā patirūpaṁ kulaṁ gantvā asapatti agāraṁ ajjhāvasantī puttavatī samānā sāmikaṁ abhibhuyya vatteyyanti— idaṁ, bhikkhave, pañcamaṁ ṭhānaṁ sulabhaṁ katapuññena mātugāmena.
These are the five things that are easy to get for ladies who have made merit.”
Imāni kho, bhikkhave, pañca ṭhānāni sulabhāni katapuññena mātugāmenā”ti.
Aṭṭhamaṁ.
SN 37.33 · Living With Self-Assurance
SN 37.33 · Pañcasīlavisāradasutta
“Mendicants, a lady living at home with five qualities is self-assured. What five? She doesn’t kill living creatures, steal, commit sexual misconduct, lie, or consume intoxicants of beer, wine, and liquor. A lady living at home with these five qualities is self-assured.”
“Pañcahi, bhikkhave, dhammehi samannāgato mātugāmo visārado agāraṁ ajjhāvasati. Katamehi pañcahi? Pāṇātipātā paṭivirato ca hoti, adinnādānā paṭivirato ca hoti, kāmesumicchācārā paṭivirato ca hoti, musāvādā paṭivirato ca hoti, surāmerayamajjappamādaṭṭhānā paṭivirato ca hoti— imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi dhammehi samannāgato mātugāmo visārado agāraṁ ajjhāvasatī”ti.
Navamaṁ.
SN 37.34 · Growth
SN 37.34 · Vaḍḍhīsutta
“Mendicants, a female noble disciple who grows in five ways grows nobly, taking on what is essential and excellent in this life. What five? She grows in faith, ethics, learning, generosity, and wisdom. A female noble disciple who grows in these five ways grows nobly, taking on what is essential and excellent in this life.
“Pañcahi, bhikkhave, vaḍḍhīhi vaḍḍhamānā ariyasāvikā ariyāya vaḍḍhiyā vaḍḍhati sārādāyinī ca hoti varādāyinī ca kāyassa. Katamehi pañcahi? Saddhāya vaḍḍhati, sīlena vaḍḍhati, sutena vaḍḍhati, cāgena vaḍḍhati, paññāya vaḍḍhati— imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi vaḍḍhīhi vaḍḍhamānā ariyasāvikā ariyāya vaḍḍhiyā vaḍḍhati, sārādāyinī ca hoti, varādāyinī ca kāyassāti.
When she grows in faith and ethics,wisdom, and both generosity and learning—a virtuous laywoman such as shetakes on what is essential for herself in this life.”
Saddhāya sīlena ca yādha vaḍḍhati,Paññāya cāgena sutena cūbhayaṁ;Sā tādisī sīlavatī upāsikā,Ādīyati sāramidheva attano”ti.
Dasamaṁ.
Balavaggo tatiyo.
Tassuddānaṁ
Visāradā pasayha abhibhuyya,Ekaṁ aṅgena pañcamaṁ;Nāsenti hetu ṭhānañca,Visārado vaḍḍhinā dasāti.
The Linked Discourses on ladies are complete.
Mātugāmasaṁyuttaṁ samattaṁ.